Catholic view on dating relationship
A Single Warning Suffices While teenage boys are a little different, most adolescent girls I know do not set out in a relationship to lose their virginity.
Rather, it happens in a moment of weakness, usually alone somewhere as the couple carouse, after the girl has incrementally yielded to a series of moral compromises.
What do I suggest to teenagers as a substitute for dating?
Be friends with members of the opposite gender, hang out, but do not call these social outings dates or think of these as such.
Therefore, out of Christian charity you should forgive him; however, out of this same love you need to dump him and carefully tell him the truth: Until he gets counseling for his violent temper, he is not ready to court. This applies to any situation in which you believe your potential suitor is leading you to compromise your Catholic faith and morals.
Again, most teenagers do not go out looking for compromising situations; rather these situations arise because adolescence is an awkward time when young people are trying to fit in, which leads to a certain group mentality taking over.
Rather, think of these outings as an opportunity to deepen your friendships.
My experiences with canon law and teenagers have taught me a thing or two about what constitutes unhealthy teenage dating behavior, as well as what type of courtship leads to healthy marriages.Quite often, the addicted spouse gets bored with the other after a year or two, and as a result pressures the other spouse into doing the same things witnessed in those filthy magazines.If you read Pope John Paul II's Familiaris Consortio, you will learn that in marriage the couple give themselves over to the other totally.This may seem like a harmless activity, but from my tribunal experience I have come to realize just how unhealthy are the expectations pornography creates in marriage.It severely undermines the marriage covenant because one spouse looks upon the other as an object of pleasure, rather than as a spouse.