Dating a man in a wheelchair
Maybe my ramblings would be relatable to other significant others in situations like mine, but that is for another time. So allow me to tell you my thoughts on beginning to date someone in a wheelchair: Before I met Aaron, I had almost no prior experience with a wheelchair user.
My experience was limited to the in and out transfer from a hospital room to the front seat of a car with a family member. I do remember a time in high school, a classmate of mine broke their back while riding an ATV over the holiday break.
Once we started to get to know each other, I knew I had questions for him, but I didn’t know where to start! Aaron was going to meet my friends for the first time at a birthday party, and I was excited, but nervous.
Each day we spent time together, I observed something new and learned by what was presented to me. As time approached to our meeting, Aaron texted me that he was running late…
I did not understand the gravity of what he endured until eight years later, after I met Aaron, and began to experience what Aaron went through each day.
Aaron and I had our first date at a Mexican restaurant with the newlyweds from the wedding where we met.
We know that you mean well, but if you accidently hit someone or something, the embarrassment is all on us.2. Have a good long think before you start dating someone who's in a wheelchair because of a genetic reason.
Turning round and saying that in the long run you can't be with someone with genetic defects but hey lets' still date and have 'fun', is not going to go down well. There's nothing more mortifying than having your wheels stuck in a door frame. Often people worry about things like: will they have to help us with personal care (the answer to that is no, if we need it we will have help in place already).
At the start of our relationship, I remember not being able to relate with my friends on their relationship issues, and when I began explaining mine, the blank stares would begin about five words into what I was describing!
Single Men & Women are Waiting to Meet Someone Like You!
Unless we ask, please don't suddenly start pushing us.
We stopped on the curb to say our goodbyes and get into our cars, when I noticed our friend go over to Aaron.
He stood next to Aaron and held onto his right hand, and with Aaron’s left hand on the van hood, helped him step down from the curb.